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Consent & negotiation basics

1 min read · Safety

Consent is enthusiastic, informed, and revocable — here's how to practice it.

Consent is an enthusiastic, informed, freely-given yes that anyone can take back at any time. Negotiate before you play: talk through what each person wants, hard limits, safer-sex practices, and a way to pause (a safeword or a plain 'stop'). During: check in. Enthusiasm can change; keep reading the room and each other. After: aftercare. Check in emotionally and physically. A quick 'how are you feeling?' goes a long way. And always: a no is a complete sentence. Respecting it gracefully is what makes this community safe.

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